WANASEMA mnyonge mnyongeni lakini haki yake mpeni.
Na mwenye ndoa ni yule anayetaka ndoa.
Dada, iwapo unataka kuingia kwenye uhusiano ambao baadaye utazaa ndoa na familia bora, ni muhimu kuwa makini na mtu unayeanzisha naye uhusiano.
Vijana siku hizi wameharibikiwa. Wengi wapo kwa ajili ya kukidhi tamaa zao za binafsi kuliko mapenzi ya dhati.
Ninakudokeza kwamba uhusiano mzuri ambao unaweza kuzaa ndoa na familia bora, ni vyema uanzie kwenye urafiki.
Iwapo utauliza kwa nini uanze urafiki na mwenzako kabla ya kuchukua hatua za ndoa, maana yangu ni kwamba mnapoanzia kwenye urafiki wa kawaida, ni rahisi mtu kuonyesha tabia zake halisi.
Marafiki huzungumza mambo mengi, hata yale yasiyofaa!
Marafiki husimuliana mambo mengi sana yanayohusu maisha yao ya baadaye au yaliyopita, rafiki yako atakuwa huru kukueleza yake ya moyoni bila kuhofia kukukwaza ama kukusikitisha.
Tofauti yake, wapenzi hawapati muda wa kutosha wa kujadili kwa upana mambo mbalimbali yanayowahusu, tayari kunakuwa na mipaka ambayo huwezi kuivuka kwa urahisi.
Iwapo rafiki yako kijana anakupenda kwa dhati, hata kama hajakutamkia, ni rahisi kujua kwa zile ishara na matendo anayokufanyia mkiwa marafiki wa kawaida na jambo ambalo wengi hawalijui, hisia zinazoanza kuchipuka mkiwa tayari mnafahamiana, zina nafasi kubwa ya kuwavusha kutoka hatua ya urafiki wa kawaida, uchumba na hatimaye ndoa.
Utakapokuwa na uhakika kwamba ni kweli anakupenda, hapo ndipo unapokuja ule usemi maarufu wa ‘kushikilia hapo hapo.’ Ukishajua anakupenda, na wewe unampenda, unapaswa kuhakikisha hakuna mtu anayekuja kuingilia uhusiano wenu na kuwavurugia.
Umeshawahi kusikia mtu analalamika kwamba mchumba wake alimsaliti kwa kutoka na rafiki yake na mpaka leo wameoana na huyo rafiki?
Kuwa makini, ukishajua anakupenda, muda mwingi fikiria namna ya kumfanya aendelee kukupenda daima, epuka maudhi, epuka vikwazo au masharti yasiyo na kichwa wala miguu, onyesha uaminifu, onyesha kumjali na kumfanyia yale yote ambayo unapaswa kuyafanya kwa mtu unayempenda.
Mume na mke halali
Sio ajabu kwamba baada ya muda fulani, yeye au wewe, au nyote kwa pamoja mnaanza kuitamani ndoa, kwa pamoja mnapanga malengo yenu na mwisho wa siku mnakuwa mume na mke halali. Zinabaki tu kumbukumbu tamu za namna mlivyoanzisha safari yenu ya mapenzi.
Kuna baadhi ya watu ambao kwa kujua au kutokujua, aina ya maisha wanayoishi, yanawafanya hata wale watu wenye nia njema nao, kuwaogopa na mwisho wanapishana na bahati.
Unaweza kupata rafiki mwenye malengo ya kuja kuwa mume au mke, lakini kwa sababu umeshajiwekea akilini maisha ya ujana yanavyotakiwa kuwa, utakachoangalia ni kupata mwanaume ambaye atakuwa na uwezo wa kukupatia pesa kila mnapokutana, tena mnapokutana lojingi.
Unategemea atakuja kuwa mumeo huyo?
Imekuwa ni kawaida siku hizi kwamba leo mnakutana asubuhi, jioni mmeshachangamshana mwili. Hujui alikotoka, hujui aliyekuwa naye na ikitokea bahati mbaya amekuja na maradhi yake, basi anakuwa ameshakuambukiza.
Imekuwa ni kawaida pia kwa akina dada kuchagua na kuweka masharti kwa aina za mume wanazotarajia kupata. Na ukisikia hayo masharti yao mengine huwa yanachekesha, mengine yanasikitisha na mengine yanashangaza.
Wengi wana matarajio ya kupata waume wenye uwezo mkubwa wa kuwatunza badala ya kuangalia jinsi gani wanavyoweza kutunzana pamoja.
Usiwe limbukeni wa mapenzi, ufundishe moyo wako kuwa na subira ili hata ukiamua kuingia kwenye uhusiano, unakuwa na uhakika na unachokifanya
English
they say the poor man but give him his due.
And a married person is one who wants to get married.
Sisters, if you want to enter into a relationship that will later lead to a better marriage and family, it is important to pay attention to the person with whom you are starting a relationship.
Young people these days are ruined. Many are there for the sake of satisfying their personal desires rather than sincere desires.
I suggest that a good relationship that can lead to marriage and a better family, it is best to start with friendships.
If you are asking why you should start a relationship with your partner before taking steps to get married, I mean that once you start a casual relationship, it is easier for a person to show his true character.
Friends talk a lot, even in the wrong place!
Friends tell each other so much about their future or past life, your friend will be free to tell you his or her heart without fear of offending you or making you sad.
On the contrary, lovers do not always have enough time to discuss various matters that concern them, and there are limits to what you can easily do.
If your young friend genuinely loves you, even if he has not spoken to you, it is easy to know by the signs and deeds he is doing for you as a normal friend and something that most people do not know, courtship and eventually marriage.
Once you are sure that he really loves you, then comes the famous saying ‘hold on right then and there.’ Once you know he loves you, and you love him, you should make sure no one comes in and interferes with your relationship.
Have you ever heard someone complain that his fiancé betrayed him by leaving his friend and to this day they are married to that friend?
Be careful, once you know he loves you, spend a lot of time thinking about how to make him always love you, avoid hurt, avoid obstacles or conditions without head or legs, show loyalty, show care and do all the things you should do to the person you love.
A lawful husband and wife
It is not surprising that after a while, he or you, or both of you, begin to crave marriage, set goals together and at the end of the day become a legitimate husband and wife. There remain only sweet memories of how you started your love journey.
There are some people who, knowingly or unknowingly, the kind of life they live, make even those who have good intentions with them, fear them and end up competing with luck.
You may find a friend who is aiming to become a husband or a wife, but because you have already set your mind on what a youthful life is supposed to be, all you have to do is find a man who will be able to give you money every time you meet, again.
Do you expect her to be your husband?
It has become common these days that today you meet in the morning, in the evening you have warmed your body. You do not know where he came from, you do not know who he was with and if he accidentally came with his illness, then he has infected you.
It has also become common for sisters to select and impose conditions on the types of husbands they hope to find. And when you hear that, some of their terms are funny, some sad and some funny.
Many hope to find husbands who are capable of caring for them rather than looking at how they can care for one another.
Don't be obsessed with love, teach your heart to be patient so that even if you decide to enter into a relationship, you can be sure of what you are doing.
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