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MAHABA* MANENO YA MKATO NI DALILI MAPENZI YANAANZA KUCHUJA*SHORT WORDS ARE SYMPTOMS LOVE WILL START FILTERING

Swahili and English

HAYA maisha tunaishi hapa duniani sio ya kudumu.

Yana mwisho wake.

Hivyo usimtese, kumkwaza ama kumkomesha mwenzako.

Utambue kwamba una kipindi tu cha kuwepo na kipindi hicho kikifika, utazikwa na kufukiwa kama gunia la maharagwe.

Mwenzako anapokutafuta kwenye simu, halafu unampuuza ama hata kumkatia simu huku ukitabasamu, jiulize iwapo vitendo hivyo vya kikatili utadumu navyo milele.

Pale unapotoa kisingizio kwamba una kazi nyingi, huna nafasi ya kuwasiliana ama hata kumuona mwenzako bila kujua kwamba unaumiza moyo wake, jiulize iwapo utaishi milele.

Iwapo umemchoka, ama humtaki tena mwenzako, mweleze ili aendelee na maisha yake kwani pale unaposema wa nini, wapo wengine huko nje wanaojiuliza watampata lini.

Hangaiko la mwenzako kukutafuta ikiwemo kukuona uso kwa uso au kukusikia kwa njia ya simu kwa siku linakuwa ni kibarua kisichokuwa na ujira kwake, uelewe kwamba moyo sio mwanasesere, kwamba utauchezea uupige dana dana na kuurusha huku na kule.

Upendo ni hisia na hisia hazionekani kwa macho, zinaonekana kwa vitendo na njia kuu ya upendo ni mawasiliano.

Mahusiano hayakui kwa kusema tu nakupenda, mahusiano hayaimariki kwa zawadi bali yanakua na yanaimarika kwa ninyi kuwasiliana mara kwa mara.

Unaweza kutambua kwamba mahaba yamejaa moyoni mwa mwenzako pale anapokutafuta kwa bidii unapopita muda fulani bila kuwasiliana nawe. Ama pia nawe unapohisi hali hiyo ya moyo kukosa utulivu unapokosa kuwasiliana na mwenzako kwa muda fulani. Utajihisi mpweke na ukihangaika moyoni pale unapokosana naye kwa muda.

Iwapo upo kwenye mahusiano hai, yasiyokuwa na migogoro mfululizo, basi pia mawasiliano yenu yatakuwa ni mazuri na yenye afya tele.

Wapo wale wataalamu kwa kudai wametingwa na kazi hawana muda hata wa kujibu ujumbe mfupi ama hata kupiga simu ya kutaka kujua mwenzake anaendeleaje.

Wakati unapomwambia mwenzako umetingwa na kazi, shughuli, biashara, kwanza jiulize katika huko kutingwa kwako unashindwa kutumia sekunde mbili za kumtaarifu mwenzako kinachoendelea?

Kabla ya kuanza mahusiano lazima ujue mahusiano ni gharama, iwapo hutaweza kugharimika kulinda mahusiano, kujenga mahusiano, basi usiingie kwenye mahusiano, utamsumbua bure mwenzako na kumpotezea muda wake.

Ukiona mwenzako katika mahusiano ana mazoea ya kukwambia ametingwa na kazi na kwamba hana nafasi, basi ni bayana umeanza kuchuja moyoni mwake na umuhimu na uzito wako kwake umepungua.

Jiandae kisaikolojia tamati inakaribia. Huenda kuna mtu anajaza ama ameshajaza nafasi yako na ukikosea kidogo tu, unalimwa buti na kujikuta nje ya uhusiano, kwa maana nyingine umeachwa.

Unapoona pia mwenzako hana tena mazungumzo nawe, mnapokutana ni salamu na kisha kila mmoja anashughulika na simu yake, hakuna majadiliano, hakuna mazungumzo, ni wazi kwamba shimo la kufukia uhusiano wenu limeshachimbwa linangoja mmoja wenu atumbukie lifunikwe.

Mlioko kwenye mahusiano yoyote, kwa nini umtese mwenzako kama huna mpango naye? Tena kwa nini usimwache huru? Kwa nini uendelee kumpotezea muda kukutafuta huku unamwambia huna nafasi ukijua bayana ameshatoka moyoni mwako?

Mawasiliano mliokuwa nayo mwanzoni yalikuwa moto, kuonana kwenu ilikuwa kila wakati, kupigiana simu yalikuwa maisha yenu, utani wa hapa na pale ni jambo la kawaida.

Ukiona sasa zinapita siku tatu hadi wiki hamjaongea wala kuonana. Na mkiongea ni dakika mbili na lugha unaisikia siyo ya mapenzi ya dhati. Inakuwa lugha kavu kavu, majibu ya mkato na wakati mwingine majibu ya kukwaza, hapa ndipo uanze kuandaa moyo wako, kwani dalili zote za kujeruhiwa hisia zinakuwa zinakunyemelea.


English 

THIS life we ​​live here on earth is not permanent.

It has an end.

So do not harass, stumble, or put an end to your mate.

Realize that you have only a period of existence and when that period comes, you will be buried and buried like a sack of beans.

When your partner is looking for you on the phone, and then you ignore or even hang up the phone with a smile, ask yourself if such cruelty will last forever.

When you make the excuse that you have a lot of work to do, you don't have the opportunity to communicate or even see your partner without realizing that you are hurting his or her heart, ask yourself if you will live forever.

If you are tired of him, or you don't want your partner anymore, tell him so that he can move on with his life because when you talk about what, there are others out there who are wondering when they will find him.

Your partner's worries about finding you, including seeing you face-to-face or overhearing you over the phone for a day, become a lucrative job for him, understand that the heart is not a toy, that you will play with it and throw it away.

Love is a feeling and emotions are invisible to the eyes, they are visible in action and the main way of love is communication.

Relationships do not grow just by saying I love you, relationships do not develop by gift but grow and strengthen for you to communicate regularly.

You may find that your heart is full of love for your partner as he or she earnestly seeks you out in time to communicate with you. Or you may find yourself in a tense situation where you have not been able to communicate with your partner for some time. You will feel lonely and anxious when you disagree with him for a while.

If you are in a healthy, non-conflict relationship, then your communication will also be positive and healthy.

There are those professionals who claim to be out of work and do not even have time to answer a text message or even call to find out how their colleague is doing.

When you tell your partner you are obsessed with work, activities, business, first ask yourself in your dissertation you fail to spend two seconds informing your partner what is going on?

Before you start a relationship you must know that relationships are expensive, if you will not be able to afford to protect relationships, build relationships, then do not enter into relationships, you will be harassing your partner for nothing and wasting his time.

If you see that your partner is in the habit of telling you that he or she is out of work and that he or she has no place, then it is clear that you have begun to filter his or her heart and your importance and weight to him or her has diminished.

Prepare yourself psychologically the end is near. There may be someone filling up or having filled your space and if you make a little mistake, you get your boots on and you find yourself out of a relationship, in other words you are left out.

When you also see your partner no longer talking to you, when you meet it is a greeting and then everyone is busy with his phone, no discussion, no conversation, it is clear that the hole to cover your relationship has been dug waiting for one of you to fall covered.

You are in any relationship, why bother your partner if you do not have a plan with him? And why not set him free? Why do you keep wasting time looking for him when you tell him you have no chance knowing that he is already out of your heart?

The communication you had at first was hot, your contact was always there, phone calls were your life, jokes here and there are normal.

If you see now three days to a week you have not spoken or seen each other. And when you speak it is two minutes and the language you hear is not of genuine love. It becomes a dry tongue, shortcuts and sometimes offensive responses, this is where you start to prepare your heart, as all the symptoms of emotional trauma are creeping up on you.


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