Swahili and English
PAMOJA na kwamba mdomo ni mali yako na tena hulipii kodi, mdomo huu, huponza wengi.
Wapo akina dada ambao hutumia midomo, na kutapika maneno ambayo huwakimbiza waume ama wapenzi wao.
Wengine pia hutumia kauli tata kujaribu kuwadhibiti na kuwatawala waume zao.
Huwa inakuwa hivi, mwanaume hupenda kutawala ama kuhisi anatawala. Pale anapoona ama anapohisi anatawaliwa na mwanamke, hata akiacha kusema, hujikuta akianza kujihisi vibaya kuhusu nafsi yake na hatimaye kuhusu huyu mwanamke anayehisi anamtawala.
Katika uhusiano, baadhi ya akina dada hukosea kwa kuamini, ukali ama kuwa na maneno mengi ya kuudhi ni njia nzuri ya kupambana na wanaume zao katika yale mambo wanayotaka kudhibiti.
Kitu wanachosahau ni kwamba wanaume huchukia kufokewa, kufanywa bongo lala na kuhisi wanatawaliwa na wanawake.
Na kwa mwanamke mwenye tabia za kufoka kwa mume ama mpenzi wake, tabia ya kujihisi anamtawala mume wake, ajue sio tu kwamba anamtesa mume wake kifikra ila pia anatengeneza mazingira ya huyu mwanaume kuachana naye, kuwa na mwanamke wa pembeni ama kupenda kukaa mbali naye.
Wapo akina kaka ambao wakiwa kazini wanakuwa huru na amani zaidi kuliko wakiwa na wake zao. Pia wako wanaume wengi msisimko wa kihisia na wapenzi wao umeisha ama umepungua kwa asilimia kubwa kwa sababu ya kauli na tabia za ubabe walizonazo wanawake wao.
Iwapo wewe ni mwanamke, ama dada uliye katika uhusiano ama ndoa, ujue kwamba silaha ya mwanamke si kauli kali wala ubabe. Umejaliwa ngozi laini, sauti nzuri na uwezo mkubwa wa kushawishi hisia za mwanaume, bila ya kuweka sauti ya kazi, ama maneno makali.
Vitu hivi mwanamke anapaswa kuvitumia vyema ili kumfanya mume wake abadilike na si kujifanya mjuaji karibu kwa kila kitu.
Hakuna mwanamke aliyeshinda katika vita ya kutunishiana misuli na mume wake. Mwanamke hajaumbwa hivyo.
Sifa ya mwanamke ni kudeka, kumfanya mwanaume ajihisi mwenye hatia kwa sauti ama matendo yake.
Ukileta ujuaji kwa mwanaume,si tu unashindwa kufanikiwa katika lengo lako, pia unamfanya naye awe juu zaidi na kusababisha mahusiano kuwa na mawimbi makubwa ya kutokuelewana.
Huna budi kufahamu kwamba unaweza kubadili tabia na misimamo ya mumeo kwa matendo yako ya kike sio kuiga tabia za kiume.
Mwanaume anapofokewa na mwanamke mambo mawili huja akilini mwake haraka. Kwanza atafikiri mwanamke husika anamfanya juha. Pili atafikiri kutafuta sehemu nyingine apate utulivu na amani.
Ijulikane pia kwamba mwanamke anapokuwa na tabia zinazomkwaza sana mwenzake, ni sababu pia hata kiwango cha muhusika kujali na kuheshimu hupungua kama si kuisha kabisa.
Mwanamke si mwanamke kwa jinsia tu
Mwanamume anapokuwa na mwanamke, hutegemea mwanamke huyo kuonyesha uanamke wake katika tabia kauli na maamuzi yake.
Sio anakuwa mwanamke kwa jinsia huku matendo na tabia zinakuwa za kiume. Sifa ya mwanamke ni kubembeleza na kunyenyekea.
Mwanamke anapokosewa, harushi maneno makali kwa mumewe ila hutenda ama husema mambo ambayo yatamfanya mwanaume husika ajihisi mkosaji.
Ukileta ubabe kwa mwanaume, usishangae mwenzako akataka kukuonyesha yeye ni nani.
Hapa ndipo atachepuka nje ama akupige matukio mfululizo ubaki unajiuliza umekosea wapi.
Kauli na maneno ya kuudhi sio sifa ya mwanamke. Tathmini zinaonyesha wanawake wengi wakorofi hawadumu katika mahusiano na wachache wenye kudumu huwa hawako katika mahusiani yenye raha na furaha.
Kila binadamu anahitaji faraja. Nazo faraja hizo hutoka kwa watu tunaowapenda na kuwajali. Badilika, chukua hatua.
English
IN ADDITION to the fact that the mouth is your property and no longer pays taxes, this mouth, it heals many.
There are sisters who use their lips, and vomit words that drive their husbands or lovers away.
Others also use complex statements to try to control and control their husbands.
It happens this way, a man likes to rule or feel he is in control. When he sees or feels he is being controlled by a woman, even if he stops talking, he finds himself starting to feel bad about himself and eventually about this woman who feels he is in control.
In a relationship, some sisters make the mistake of believing that harshness or harsh words are the best way to fight their husbands in the things they want to control.
What they forget is that men hate being bullied, brainwashed and feeling dominated by women.
And for a woman who has the habit of breaking up with her husband or partner, the habit of feeling dominated by her husband, she should know not only that she is torturing her husband mentally but also creates an environment for this man to divorce her, have an extramarital affair or love to stay away from her.
There are brothers who at work are more at ease and at peace than with their wives. There are also many men whose emotional and sexual excitement with their partners has been reduced or decreased by a large percentage because of the tyrannical statements and behaviors of their wives.
If you are a woman, or a sister in a relationship or marriage, know that a woman's weapon is neither harsh nor tyrannical. You are endowed with smooth skin, good voice and a great ability to influence a man's feelings, without putting on a working voice, or harsh words.
These things a woman should use properly to make her husband change and not pretend to be knowledgeable in almost everything.
No woman has won a battle of wrestling with her husband. Woman was not created that way.
A woman's reputation is to deceive, to make a man feel guilty by his words or actions.
When you bring knowledge to a man, you not only fail to achieve your goal, you also make him higher and cause relationships to have big waves of misunderstanding.
You have to realize that you can change your husband's behavior and attitudes by your female actions not by imitating male behaviors.
When a man is attacked by a woman two things come to his mind quickly. At first he would think that the woman in question was making fun of him. Second he will consider finding another place to find peace and tranquility.
It should also be noted that when a woman has behaviors that greatly offend her partner, it is also a reason why even the level of the person caring and respect decreases if not completely eliminated.
A woman is not a woman by gender only
When a man has a woman, he relies on the woman to show her femininity in her behavior and statements.
She is not a woman by gender while her actions and behaviors are masculine. A woman's character is to be flattering and submissive.
When a woman is wronged, she does not use harsh words to her husband but acts or says things that will make the man feel guilty.
If you bring tyranny to a man, don't be surprised if your partner wants to show you who he is.
This is where he will slip out or hit you repeatedly and you will be left wondering where you went wrong.
Annoying remarks and words are not a woman's trait. Studies show that most abusive women do not last in relationships and that a few do not stay in a happy and happy relationship.
Every human being needs comfort. And that comfort comes from the people we love and care for. Change, take action.
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