Kupenda ni hisia ambayo haionyeshwi kwa maneno ama hisia pekee, bali pia hujumuisha vitendo na mienendo tuitendayo kwa wale tunaowapenda.
Upendo hujionyesha kwa njia nyingi; kwa ndugu zetu, rafiki zetu ama wapenzi wetu. Wengi huamini kwamba upendo huleta suluhu la changamoto nyingi katika jamii.
Iwapo unaishi na ni mtu mzima usiye na kasoro yoyote, ni lazima utakuwa umewahi kupenda ama kupendwa katika maisha yako. Mapenzi nayozungumzia hapa ni ya watu wawili wanaokutana na kupendana kwa maana ya kuwa na uhusiano wa ziada.
Wale ambao wamewahi kupata hisia hii, wanatambua kwamba kuna mvuto wa kipekee, hasa pale unapokuwa na mtu sahihi katika maisha yako.
Pamoja na yote haya, wapo wengine ambao wamekuwa na wakati mgumu ama kushindwa kuonyesha upendo kwa wawapendao na labda wakadhani wanaonyesha upendo kumbe sio hivyo. Ambapo pia wapo ambao hawajui jinsi ya kupenda na wamekuwa wakijikuta wakipoteza wawapendao mara kwa mara.
Hawa ni wale wasiodumu kwenye uhusiano na mara nyingine hubaki wanajiuliza sababu inayopelekea waachwe mara kwa mara.
Kuna jinsi mbalimbali za kuonyesha upendo kwa mwenzako, ambazo hupuuzwa na wengine na wengine wakazitilia maanani:
Usikivu ama kumsikiliza mwenzako
Ni muhimu kumsikiliza mwenzako na sio kusikia. Nikimaanisha sikiliza zaidi na ongea kidogo, kwani ukifanya hivi utampatia nafasi mwenzako ya kutoa yote yaliyo moyoni na pia utapata nafasi ya kuelewa hisia zake.
Uwe na mazoea ya kuuliza unachotaka na kusema asante
Haya ni mazoea rahisi ambayo unaweza kujifunza na kuyafanyia kazi kila siku. Hata hivyo wengi wetu hatuna utaratibu wa kuuliza tunapohitaji kitu kwa wenzetu wala kusema asante pale tunapopata kile tukitakacho. Kwamba unaona kila jambo ni haki yako na hauna sababu ya kusema asante. Ni vyema kuwa na mazoea ya kusema asante, ni neno dogo ambalo lina nguvu kubwa.
Mwambie ama waambie wale unaowapenda, usipende kimyakimya
Eleza hisia zako kwa mwenzako, mweleze kwamba unampenda na jambo ambalo linakuvutia kwake. Ni vizuri kueleza hisia zako kwa wale walioleta tofauti chanya katika maisha yako. Siku hizi kuna mazoea ya kutuma ujumbe mfupi ama kupiga simu kuzungumza na walio karibu ya maisha yetu. Ni vyema upate muda mara kwa mara wa kuzungumza nao ana kwa ana. Mazungumzo ya uso kwa uso yanaleta ukaribu zaidi ya kutumia njia za kisasa za mawasiliano. Inapobidi, onana na unayeongea naye.
Wakati mwingine jitolee kuwasaidia wale wenye uhitaji
Siku zote huwa na mtu anayehitaji jambo moja ama lingine. Unaposaidia watu wengine utajisikia vizuri katika nafsi yako. Yule unayemsaidia anaweza kuwa jirani yako, jamaa yako ama nduguyo ambaye alihitaji jambo ama kitu ambacho unao uwezo wa kumsaidia.
Unapojitolea kumsaidia mtu mwingine, usitarajie malipo kwa jinsi moja ama nyingine, kwani kama unatarajia malipo, bila shaka utakuwa hutendi hivyo kwa kujitolea.
Iwapo unakuwa na wakati mgumu kueleza hisia zako kwa mwenzako, mwandikie barua
Mueleze yale yaliyomo moyoni mwako kumhusu na umuwekee barua hiyo mahali ambako anaweza kuiona. Kwani wengine ni rahisi zaidi kuandika kuliko kuzungumza.
Katika yote jifunze kusamehe
Kama unapenda ama unampenda mtu utambue kwamba siku zote hawezi kuwa mtilimifu. Yapo mambo ambayo yatakukwaza, usiyaweke moyoni, mweleze inapobidi na uyaache yaende zake.
English
LOVING or loving is an indescribable emotion in words.
Loving is a feeling that is expressed not only in words or emotion but also in the actions and attitudes we do for those we love.
Love manifests itself in many ways; to our relatives, friends or loved ones. Many believe that love brings a solution to the many problems in society.
If you live and are a flawless adult, you must have loved or loved in your life. The love I am talking about here is of two people who meet and love each other in the sense of having an extra relationship.
Those of you who have experienced this feeling, realize that there is a unique attraction, especially when you have the right person in your life.
Despite all of this, there are others who have had a hard time or failed to show love to their loved ones and perhaps thought they were showing love when in fact they were not. Where there are also those who do not know how to love and have been finding themselves losing loved ones from time to time.
These are the ones who do not last in a relationship and sometimes remain wondering why they are being left out from time to time.
There are various ways to show love for your spouse, which are overlooked by others and taken into account:
Listen or listen to your partner
It is important to listen to your partner and not to hear. I mean listen more and talk less, because if you do this you will give your partner a chance to express everything and you will also get a chance to understand his or her feelings.
Make it a habit to ask what you want and say thank you
These are simple exercises that you can learn and practice every day. Yet most of us do not have the habit of asking when we need something from our peers or saying thank you when we get what we want. That you see everything is your right and you have no reason to say thank you. It is good to have the habit of saying thank you, it is a small word that has great power.
Tell her or tell those you love, don't love her silently
Express your feelings to your partner, tell him or her that you love him or her and that you are attracted to him or her. It is good to express your feelings to those who have made a positive difference in your life. Nowadays there is a practice of texting or phoning to talk to those closest to our lives. It is good to take time to talk to them face-to-face. Face-to-face conversations bring more closeness to using modern means of communication. When necessary, consult with your partner.
Sometimes volunteer to help those in need
There is always someone who needs one thing or another. When you help other people you will feel better in your soul. The person you are helping may be your neighbor, relative or relative who needed something or something that you are able to help.
When you volunteer to help someone else, do not expect payment in one way or another, for if you expect to be paid, you will probably not do so voluntarily.
If you are having a difficult time expressing your feelings to your spouse, write him or her a letter
Tell him what is in your heart and keep the letter where he can see it. For some it is easier to write than to speak.
In all of this learn to forgive
If you love or love someone, realize that he cannot always be perfect. There are things that will offend you, don't keep it in your heart, tell him when necessary and let it go.
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