Swahili and English
WANASEMA kuolewa ama kutoolewa ni majaliwa.
Lakini mara nyingi zipo sababu zinazochangia kwa akina dada kutangatanga bila kupata mwenzake wa kutulia naye katika ndoa, kwa wale wenye nia ya ndoa.
Na mara nyingi hali hii huchangiwa na mwenendo wa akina dada hawa ambao hufanya wanaume wawahofie, wawakimbie ama wawatumie na kuwatupa kule.
Ni vyema wakati wote kujitathimini kitabia ili utakapoona udhaifu wako, basi uufanyie kazi na uweze kupata mtu sahihi wa kukuoa.
Waswahili wanasema afya yako inatokana na jinsi unavyokula na kuishi. Wakati mwingine hata aina ya ugumu wa kutoolewa unaoupitia kwenye uhusiano unatokana na jinsi wewe mwenyewe ulivyojiweka.
Hali halisi ni kwamba baadhi ya wanawake wamekuwa wakipoteza sifa za kuolewa kwa kukosa haiba ya kike. Mwanamke unapaswa kuuvaa uhusika wa kike. Hii inawahusu akina dada wenye tabia za jike dume. Uwe mwanamke kwa jina na pia vitendo, hata pale mtu akikuona ama kukutana nawe anajua kweli amekutana na mwanamke.
Haiba ya mwanamke si kuwa mzungumzaji sana kwa mwanaume hususan mwanaume wake. Mwanamke mwenye haiba ya kike ana heshima, mpole, mcheshi na mkarimu. Anajua jinsi gani mume anapaswa kuheshimiwa. Anajua azungumze vipi na mwanaume. Azungumze nini na wakati gani. Hata kama ana hoja ya kuzungumza au kumkosoa mwanaume wake, hawezi kuzungumzia hapo. Atatafuta muda mzuri wa kuzungumza na mwanaume wake tena katika lugha rafiki.
Kuna baadhi ya wanawake wanakosa waume wanaowatarajia sababu ya jinsi wanavyojiweka. Hawauvai ule uhusika wa kuwa mtu ambaye anakwenda kuwa mke au mama wa familia. Mwanamke anayejiandaa kuwa mke wa mtu anajua kuzingatia majukumu yake. Sio mwanamke unavaa mavazi kama ndege aina ya mbayuwayu, unaishi maisha ya kihuni, mtaa mzima unajulikana wewe. Mwanamke anayejiandaa na maisha ya heshima ya kuwa mke, anavaa mavazi ya heshima na anajiheshimu kwa jinsi yoyote anayoijua.
Mwanamke mwenye haiba ya kuwa mke ni mvumilivu wa mambo. Ana staha katika kuzungumza jambo. Anatambua utu ni nini, shida na raha; si mtu wa kupenda tu maisha mazuri bali anatambua pia kuna nyakati za vipindi vigumu katika maisha. Anatimiza wajibu wake ipasavyo kwa kumtia nguvu mwenzake. Anakuwa na mtizamo kwamba iwapo wamekosa katika wakati uliopo, bila shaka kesho mambo yanarekebishwa.
Wanawake wengine hawaolewi sababu ya kuwa na gubu. Wanawake ambao wanapenda kukasirika ovyo, kupenda ugomvi kila wakati au kusababisha kelele za kila wakati. Kupata mwanaume anayeweza kuvumilia tabia hizo ni nadra sana.
Wanaishia kuhangaika muda mrefu maana akina kaka hawapendi kero ndani ya nyumba. Wanachoshwa na mambo mengi ya maisha, wanatamani zaidi kupata faraja kwa wenzao na si kuongezewa kelele na hekaheka.
Katika yote kumbuka kwamba tabia huumba mtu na mwelekeo na mtizamo wako unategemea zaidi tabia yako na unavyohusiana na wengine.
English
THEY SAY that getting married is a gift.
But there are often factors that contribute to a sister's going astray without being able to find a partner to marry.
And often this situation is compounded by the behavior of these sisters who make men fear them, run away or use them and throw them there.
It is always good to evaluate yourself morally so that when you see your weakness, then work on it and find the right person to marry you.
Swahili people say your health depends on how you eat and live. Sometimes even the kind of unbearable hardship you go through in a relationship stems from how you set yourself up.
The reality is that some women have been losing their marriage credentials for lack of feminine charm. A woman should wear a feminine character. This applies to sisters with male characteristics. Be a woman by name and also actions, even when someone sees you or meets you they know they have actually met a woman.
A woman's personality is not to be too talkative to a man, especially her husband. A woman with a feminine personality is polite, gentle, humorous and generous. She knows how a husband should be respected. She knows how to talk to a man. Talk about what and when. Even if she has an argument to talk about or criticize her husband, she can’t talk about it there. She will look for a good time to talk to her husband again in a friendly language.
There are some women who lack husbands who expect them because of the way they position themselves. They do not wear the character of being the person who is going to be the wife or mother of the family. A woman who is preparing to be a man's wife knows how to focus on her responsibilities. You are not a woman who wears clothes like a bird of prey, you live a debauched life, the whole neighborhood is known to you. A woman who prepares herself for a dignified life as a wife, wears a dignified dress and respects herself in whatever way she knows.
A woman with the charm of being a wife is tolerant of things. He is polite in talking about the matter. He knows what personality is, trouble and pleasure; he is not only a person who loves a good life but also realizes that there are times of difficult periods in life. He fulfills his duty accordingly by strengthening his fellow man. He maintains that if they are wrong in the present, of course, tomorrow things will get better.
Some women do not marry the reason for having sex. Women who like to get angry, love to quarrel all the time or cause constant noise. Finding a man who can tolerate such behavior is extremely rare.
They end up worrying for a long time because the brothers do not like the nuisance in the house. Tired of the many things in life, they are more inclined to find comfort in their peers than to be overwhelmed by the noise and laughter.
In all of this remember that behavior creates a person and your attitude and attitude depends more on your behavior and how you relate to others.
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