WAYS TO GET OUT OF PAIN+MBINU ZA KUJIONDOA KATIKA MAUMIVU

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WAYS TO GET OUT OF PAIN

There are times in life when you will go through a lot of pain, business is not doing well, your health is not good, debt is on every corner, conflicts are on every corner, relationships are on the verge of collapse n.k.a.

There are people who are still angry because of relationships that broke down many years ago

Some are still angry because of past jobs and others for business losses they suffered many years ago

Continuing to think negatively about your life for a long time will prevent you from preparing for the future

In all the difficult times like life being very difficult and every effort you make to change the results do not bear fruit it is very easy to get very angry especially if you see your colleagues doing well with efforts like yours

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According to Epictetus, an ancient philosopher, there are things that are beyond our control and things that are beyond our control.

We can only control our minds but not the minds of other people

There are people who get angry because of the behavior of others the act is like drinking poison while expecting the death of the enemy

If you hate someone or something or life in general it is you who are left to suffer because no one knows what you are thinking

In any situation you go through, divide your life into two parts, parts you can control and parts you can't control

Everyone is born without writing a letter to be born by what parent, what country, what district, in what family income, what tribe, what date to be born n.k.a.

You have no reason to blame yourself because you are too old to have a good income, you are not married, you are unemployed, you have no job, you are not brilliant, your health has deteriorated, madenj etc.

Man suffers more in his thoughts than in his reality.

Illness often weakens the body but your mind is still free to think

While in prison, the mind is still free

In the midst of a difficult financial situation the mind is still free

If you do not have a generation, the mind is still free

When you have problems the mind is free because there are those who emerge after a fall and there are also despair completely

When life becomes too difficult there are people who go back and look for someone to blame and very few decide to continue the journey.

If you give up, you lose everything because you will go back to where you came from

Do you tend to focus on things that you did wrong more than you did right?

Do you often feel inferior because of low income, poor appearance, poor performance, and low efficiency?

Do you have the inner motivation to tell you something is wrong?

Do you tend to be deficient in appearance, shape, color, accent, your efforts at school and at work?

Do you get angry over yourself when you see someone younger than you having greater economic success than you?

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In severe punishment many people give themselves to self-loathing because of their mistakes, failure in goals, broken relationships, difficult financial situation and chronic illness.

There is no hate that someone else can hate you more than the hatred that you will hate yourself

If someone hates you you don't get hurt but if you hate yourself you get a lot of pain

The time when you are most selfish and self-centered is when everyone is against you

Any problem you encounter will only make you more resilient

You will not be given a bigger problem than your ability to endure

Man learns from his mistakes and pain

If you get good food every day you forget but one day when you go to bed hungry you will tell stories everywhere

People remember pain and mistakes that is natural you have no reason to blame people for remembering your bad and your mistakes more than your good even you remember your problems more than your success

People will disappoint you because of your expectations for them

Take away the expectations of the people and then whatever they do to you receive it and look at what is within your power do and what is beyond your ability let it not bother you

Often the people you love the most are the ones who discourage you because there are always secret expectations that people set before they see real actions.

If you have no expectations for people they will not be discouraged so it is a protection for you and a benefit for you

PREPARE YOURSELF to be discouraged by the people you love not for the purpose of hating them Lah it's because they must do it

Pain makes a person strong.

Yesterday is over and all yesterday's opportunities are gone and they can't come back so getting angry at the events that have happened is self-inflicted torture

Tomorrow has not yet come and you cannot prepare for everything that will happen tomorrow so if something happens it is beyond your control let it

You will make a lot of mistakes and you will not be able to avoid every mistake even if you become a planning champion

It is very rare for life to come as you have planned.

You have no reason to harbor resentment in you for something you cannot change

Swahili

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Kuna baadhi ya nyakati katika maisha utapitia maumivu makali sana, biashara hazifanyi vizuri,afya yako sio nzuri,madeni kila kona, migogoro kila kona, mahusiano yanakuwa kwenye hatihati za kuvunjika n.k

Kuna watu bado ni wenye hasira kwa sababu ya mahusiano ambayo yalivvunjika miaka mingi iliyopita

Wapo bado ni wenye hasira kwa sababu ya kazi zilizopita na wengine kwa hasara ya kwenye biashara walipata miaka mingi iliyopita

Kuendelea kufikiria ubaya wa maisha yako kwa muda mrefu kutakuzuia kujiandaa na fursa mpya za baadaye

Katika nyakati zote ngumu kama maisha kuwa magumu sana na kila juhudi unafanya kubadilisha matokeo hazileti matunda ni rahisi sana kupata hasira sana hasa ukiona wenzako wanafanya vizuri kwa juhudi kama zako

Alisema Epictetus mwalimu wa falsafa wa kale kuwa kuna vitu vipo ndani ya uwezo wetu na kuna vitu vipo nje ya uwezo wetu

Tunaweza kudhibiti akili zetu pekee ila sio akili za watu wengine

Kuna watu wanapata hasira kwa sababu ya tabia za wengine kitendo hicho ni sawa na kunywa sumu huku ukitarajia kifo cha adui

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Ukimchukia mtu au kitu au maisha kwa ujumla ni wewe uanebaki ukiteseka kwa sababu hakuna anayejua kile unafikiria

Katika hali yoyote ambayo utapitia tenganisha maisha yako sehemu mbili sehemu unayoweza kudhibiti na sehemu huwezi kudhibiti

Kila mmoja amezaliwa bila ya kuandika barua azaliwe na mzazi gani,nchi gani,wilaya gani,katika kipato gani cha familia,kabila gani,azaliwe tarehe ngapi n.k

Huna sababu ya kujilaumu sana kwa sababu umri umesonga sana na huna kipato kizuri,huna ndoa,huna ajira,huna kazi nzuri,huna kipaji,afya imezorota,madenj n.k

Binadamu huteseka sana kwenye fikra zake kuliko uhalisia wake.

Ugonjwa huwa unafanya mwili kuwa dhaifu lakini bado akili yako ipo huru kufikiri

Ukiwa kwenye kifungo cha gereza bado akili ipo huru

Ukiwa katika hali ngumu ya kifedha bado akili ipo huru

Ukiwa huna kizazi bado akili ipo huru

Ukipata matatizo akili huwa ipo huru kwa maana wapo huibuka baada ya kuanguka wapo pia hukata tamaa kabisa

Kipindi maisha yanakuwa magumu kupita kiasi huwa kuna watu hurudi nyuma na kutafuta wa kumlaumu na wachache sana huamua kuendelea na safari liwalo na liwe

Ukikata tamaa unakuwa umepoteza kila kitu kwa sababu utarudi nyuma kuliko hapo umefika

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Je huwa unafikiria sana vitu ambavyo umekosea sana kuliko ulivyofanya kwa usahihi?

Je huwa ukijiona tabaka la chini kwa sababu ya kipato duni, muonekano mbaya, ufaulu duni, na viwango vya chini vya ufanisi?

Je huwa unapata msukumo wa ndani kukwambia kuna kitu umekosea ?

Je huwa ukijitoa kasoro kwa muonekano,sura, rangi, lafudhi, juhudi zako kwenye masomo na kazini kwako?

Je huwa unapata hasira juu yako kama ukiona mtu mwenye umri mdogo kuliko wewe akiwa na mafanikio ya kiuchumi makubwa sana kuliko wewe?

Katika adhabu kubwa watu wengi huwa wanajipa ni kujichukia kwa sababu ya makosa yao,kufeli kwenye malengo, mahusiano kuvunjika,hali ngumu ya kifedha na maradhi sugu

Hakuna chuki ambayo mtu mwengine anaweza kukuchukia kuliko chuki ambayo utajichukia wewe

Mtu mwengine akikuchukia hupati maumivu lakini ukijichukia wewe unapata maumivu makali sana

Wakati wa kujipenda sana na kujijali sana ni pale kila mtu yupo kinyume na wewe

Tatizo lolote ambalo utapata utaweza kustahimili tu

Huwezi kupewa tatizo kubwa kuliko uwezo wako wa kustahimili

Binadamu hujifunza kwenye makosa na maumivu yake

Ukipata chakula kizuri kila siku unasahau lakini siku ukilala njaa utahadithia kila sehemu

Watu wanakumbuka maumivu na makosa hiyo ni asili huna sababu ya kuwalaumu watu kwa kukumbuka mabaya yako na makosa yako kuliko mazuri yako hata wewe unakumbuka matatizo yako kuliko mafanikio yako

Watu watakuvunja moyo kwa sababu ya matarajio yako kwao

Ondoa matarajio kwa watu kisha chochote watakufanyia pokea na uangalie kile kipo ndani ya uwezo wako fanya na kile kipo nje ya uwezo wako kiache kisikutese

Mara nyingi watu unaowapenda sana ndio wenye kukuvunja moyo kwa sababu huwa kuna matarajio ya siri watu huweka kabla ya kuona vitendo halisi

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JIANDAE kiakili kuvunjwa moyo na watu unaowapenda sio kwa lengo uwachukie Lah ni kwa sababu lazima watafanya hivyo

Maumivu humfanya mtu kuwa imara .

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Utafanya makosa mengi sana na huwezi kuepuka kila kosa hata kama utakuwa bingwa wa mipango

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