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KNOW HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE AND LOVE=FAHAMU JINSI YA KUDUMISHA NDOA NA MAPENZI YAKO

MAHABA Jumatatu, Septemba 06, 2021


 English & Swahili 

KNOW HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE AND LOVE

Nothing hurts as much as a person leaving a loved one. The heart travels many miles by imagination. It is not wrong for anyone to say that the sadness of love overcomes a tragedy. But all of that can be avoided and stay in a straight line if communication carries sufficient significance and stands on its main pillars.

COMMUNICATION: It is the main pillar of the relationship. Strengthened it promotes lasting peace but on the contrary it is a catalyst for lovers to break up. It is good to learn a language that can help you get along with your partner. Your voice on the street should be different from the one you use in the bedroom.

You probably have a tendency to give short answers when you are talking to your friends, but that should not be the case with your roommate. If you are used to calling your colleagues “You!” Your spouse should not call you that.

It is an education that everyone should have that distinguishing places is a wise thing to do. For your image to be different when you meet people on the street, be different when you are with your parents, the same is true when you are in a ‘special’ place with your partner.

You must be changing like a chameleon. When you are at work in front of the people you are leading you speak with a commanding voice, but that should not be used when you are with your parents. You speak in a loud voice of command in the presence of your father, where did you learn that manners?

There is a language of communication with your spouse. It is taboo to give a commanding voice. It is good to be submissive but not to the extent that it will make you appear to have psychological defects. Tawile for everything your partner says is not allowed, you should put your feelings first.

Being gentle does not mean that you are the perfect partner. After all, you are likely to be disciplined and listen carefully to your partner, never mind! You will be identified as a living person based on how your mind works. The way your emotions reflect life when you are touched by various events is also how your humanity is read.

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You question things in a loud enough voice, you hate when you see things not going right, you get hurt when you are treated and you are happy when the plans are positive. This is the logic of wanting you to have a living mind. It will be amazing if you find out that your partner is gesturing with another partner and then you smile.

Dangerous toxins that lead to marital breakdown or romantic relationships for most people are a lack of spatial planning. Office schedules to incorporate at home. Friends affect the processes of your will, although everything has its significance depending on the time.

If you are annoyed with your co-workers, you should put wisdom first. You return home believing that you will find your spouse there and that he or she will comfort you. Heavy head, then let your partner know what is bothering you rather than giving him or her a short answer. It will ruin you instead of helping you

What I am emphasizing here is that relationships of any kind are maintained by communication.

Your tongue in front of your partner has a great opportunity to make you continue to enjoy his or her love. On the contrary, you may find it annoying. He will tolerate you in the end he will get tired because you do not know how to flatter, you like to order.

Want to be the best person in the relationship? Consider the following:

* IDENTIFY YOUR MISTAKES *

This is a very good language at will. You need to recognize your mistakes quickly and find a way to resolve them. When you realize that you have made a mistake and then remain silent it gives a bad signal ahead of the trip.

* BE SLOW *

SAY SORRY

English dominates a large part of Tanzanian communication, so if you apologize you will appear to be local, then say I am sorry. This is after you have realized the mistake and when you apologize you mean it from the heart.

USINUNE AKINUNA

It is a language of love that if your partner is grumbling, you lower yourself so that you can fit. What time will all of you go on strike? It is a serious mistake to find out that your spouse is angry, and you are upset because it is a sign of divorce.

HATE WHAT HE DOESN'T

It is taught that your friend's friend is your friend. The enemy of your friend is your enemy. The enemy of your enemy is your enemy. The enemy of your enemy is your friend. This philosophy will teach you a lesson that you should not love what he hates

It does not accept a person who is not good for your partner, you make him a friend. Imagine for a second you were transposed into the karmic driven world of Earl. Respect your partner's feelings.

INCREASE LOVE FOR THE ONE HE LOVES

Love is an art, if you can play your cards you will last forever. You have come to hate what he does not like, now it is better to add love to what he loves. This will help make them look the same all the time.

However, imitate the good things, so that your partner does not become a bartender and then you imitate him. He loves politics, give him cooperation and you love it slowly. Go ball and look together, arrow and so on, that's the will.

MAKE YOU WANT YOU ALL THE TIME

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It's easy, when you're with him, show genuine love. Make sure he is not upset when you are together, about him you are carrying like yours. You don't scold him and you make him better. Praise him for being good and express your feelings for him. That will make him build greater trust in you and when you are away he will feel inferior.

THE BOTTOM IS OVER

Even if you have an argument, guard your voice. Use wisdom and finish it quietly.

SWEETHEART, DARLING, BABY, HONEY, DEAR

Give her respect and show her how much she has a great opportunity for you. Don't call her by her name or if others have a baby then you will hear "Mama Chausiku!" or “Father, speak!”

It is not recommended, use those names or if you can use other influential ones. Give her the pleasure of speaking and she will make her happy to hear from you. Love is simple, a little bit of flexibility will make you see the whole world you own

Swahili 

FAHAMU JINSI YA KUDUMISHA NDOA NA MAPENZI YAKO

Hakuna linalouma moyo kama mtu kuachana na aliyempenda. Moyo husafiri kilometa nyingi kwa kuwaza. Hakukosea aliyesema sikitiko la mahaba linashinda msiba. Lakini yote hayo yanaweza kuepukika na kukaa mstari ulionyooka endapo mawasiliano yatabeba umuhimu unaotosheleza na kusimama kwenye nguzo zake kuu.

MAWASILIANO: Ni nguzo kuu ya uhusiano. Ikiimarishwa huchochea amani ya kudumu lakini kinyume chake ni kichocheo cha wapenzi kuachana. Ni vizuri kujifunza lugha inayoweza kukufanya uelewane na mwenzako. Sauti yako ukiwa mtaani itofautiane na ile ambayo unaitumia chumbani.
Pengine una kawaida ya kutoa majibu ya mkato unapokuwa unazungumza na rafiki zako, lakini tabia hiyo hutakiwi kuizoea pale unapokuwa na mwenzio chumbani. Ikiwa umezoea kuwaita wenzako: “Wewe!” Mwenzi wako hutakiwi kumwita hivyo.
Ni elimu ambayo kila mtu anatakiwa kuwa nayo kwamba kutofautisha maeneo ni jambo la busara. Kwamba sura yako iwe nyingine unapokutana na watu wa mitaani, itofautiane unapokuwa na wazazi, vivyo hivyo pale ambapo upo sehemu ‘spesho’ na mwenzi wako.

Lazima uwe unabadilika kama kinyonga. Ukiwa kazini mbele ya watu unaowaongoza unazungumza kwa sauti ya amri, lakini hiyo hupaswi kuitumia unapokuwa na wazazi wako. Unaongea kwa sauti kali ya kuamrisha mbele ya baba yako, hiyo adabu umefundishwa wapi?
Kuna lugha ya kuzungumza ukiwa na mwenzi wako. Ni mwiko kutoa sauti ya kuamrisha. Ni vizuri kumnyenyekea lakini si katika kiwango ambacho kitakufanya uonekane una kasoro za kisaikolojia. Tawile kwa kila linalosemwa na mpenzi wako hairuhusiwi, unatakiwa kuweka mbele hisia zako.
Upole kupitiliza hauna maana kwamba wewe ni mpenzi sahihi. Eti, utaonekana una nidhamu na unamsikiliza vizuri mwenzio, la hasha! Utatambulika kuwa mtu hai kulingana na jinsi akili yako inavyofanya kazi. Namna hisia zako zinavyoonesha uhai unapoguswa na matukio mbalimbali ndivyo na ubinadamu wako unavyosomeka.
Unahoji mambo kwa sauti yenye ujazo wa kutosha, unachukia pale unapoona mambo hayajaenda sawa, unaumia pale unapotendwa na unafurahi mipango inapokuwa chanya. Hii ndiyo mantiki ya kukutaka uwe na akili hai. Itashangaza umepata habari kwamba mwenzi wako yupo gesti na mpenzi mwingine halafu utabasamu.
Sumu hatari inayosababisha mmomonyoko wa ndoa au uhusiano wa kimapenzi kwa watu wengi ni kushindwa kujipanga kimaeneo. Ratiba za ofisini kuingiza nyumbani. Marafiki kuathiri taratibu za mapenzi yenu, ingawa kila kitu kina umuhimu wake kulingana na wakati husika.


Umeudhiwa na wafanyakazi wenzako kazini, unatakiwa kuweka hekima mbele. Unarudi nyumbani ukiwa na imani kwamba huko utakutana na mwenzi wako na ndiye mfariji wako. Kichwa kizito, basi mueleze mwenzio ajue kinachokusibu kuliko kumpa majibu ya mkato. Itakuharibia badala ya kukusaidia
Ninachosisitiza hapa ni kuwa uhusiano wa aina yoyote unadumishwa na mawasiliano.
Lugha yako mbele ya mwenzi wako ina nafasi kubwa ya kukufanya uendelee kufurahia penzi lake. Kinyume chake unaweza kujikuta ni kero kwake. Atakuvumilia mwisho atachoka kwa sababu hujui kubembeleza, unapenda kuamrisha.
Unataka kuwa mtu bora kwenye uhusiano? Zingatia chachandu zifuatazo:

*TAMBUA MAKOSA YAKO*

Hii ni lugha nzuri mno kwenye mapenzi. Unatakiwa kutambua makosa yako haraka na kutafuta njia ya kusuluhisha. Ukijielewa kwamba umekosea halafu ukakaa kimya hutoa ishara mbaya mbele ya safari.

*KUWA MWEPESI*

 KUSEMA SAMAHANI

Kiingereza kinatawala sehemu kubwa ya mawasiliano ya Watanzania, kwahiyo ukiona samahani utaonekana upo kienyeji, basi sema I am sorry. Hii ni baada ya kutambua makosa na unapoomba msamaha umaanishe kutoka moyoni.

USINUNE AKINUNA
Ni lugha ya mapenzi kwamba mwenzako akinuna, wewe jishushe ili mpate muafaka. Nyote mkigoma mtafika saa ngapi? Ni kosa kubwa unapobaini mwenzi wako ana hasira, nawe ukapandisha jazba kwani ni kiashiria cha kuachana.

CHUKIA ASIYOYAPENDA
Inafundishwa kwamba rafiki wa rafiki yako ni rafiki yako. Adui wa rafiki yako ni adui yako. Rafiki wa adui yako ni adui yako. Adui wa adui yako ni rafiki yako. Falsafa hii ikupe somo kwamba hutakiwi kupenda yale ambayo anayachukia.
Haikubali mtu ambaye hana jema kwa mwenzi wako, wewe umfanye rafiki. Fikiria upande wako kwamba kuna mtu anakula yamini kukumaliza, halafu ugundue kwamba mpenzi wako huwa anaketi naye na kuzungumza kwa kugongeshana mikono? Heshimu hisia za mwenzako.


ONGEZA MAPENZI KWA ANAYOPENDA
Mapenzi ni sanaa, ukiweza kucheza karata zako mtadumu bila kuchokana. Umeweza kuchukia yale ambayo hayapendi, sasa ni vizuri kuongeza mapenzi kwa yale ambayo anayapenda. Hii itasaidia kuwafanya muonekane ni kitu kimoja daima.
Hata hivyo, iga kwa mambo mazuri, isije ikawa mwenzako ni mtu wa baa kwa sana halafu na wewe umuige. Anapenda siasa, mpe ushirikiano nawe uipende taratibu. Mpira nenda mkaangalie pamoja, muvi na mengineyo, hayo ndiyo mapenzi.

MFANYE AKUTAMANI MUDA WOTE
Ni rahisi, unapokuwa naye muoneshe mapenzi ya dhati. Hakikisha hakasiriki mkiwa pamoja, yanayomhusu unabeba kama yako. Humkaripii na unamfanya yeye ni bora. Msifie kwamba ni mzuri na umueleze kwa hisia jinsi unavyomkubali. Hiyo itamfanya ajenge imani kubwa kwako na ukiwa mbali atajiona pungufu.

USITHUBUTU KUPAYUKA
Hata kama mmegombana, linda sauti yako. Tumia hekima na myamalize kimyakimya.

SWEETHEART, DARLING, BABY, HONEY, DEAR
Mpe heshima yake na umuoneshe ni kwa kiasi gani alivyo na nafasi kubwa kwako. Usipende kumuita kwa kumtaja jina lake au wengine wakishapata mtoto ndiyo utasikia “Mama Chausiku!” au “Baba Semeni!”
Haifai, tumia majina hayo au ukiweza tumia mengine yenye mvuto. Ikupe raha kutamka na yeye imfanye afurahi kusikia kutoka kwako. Mapenzi ni rahisi, utundu kidogo utakufanya uone dunia yote unaimiliki wewe

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